^^^ Why are his eyes purple?
As I walked into Starbucks today, I probably made eye contact with four to five individuals (both men and women). As I made eye contact with each one of these people, I smiled… you know… to acknowledge them and such (I just thought that’s what we do when we make eye contact- unless you’re driving on the freeway then you look away quickly). Continue reading
* Picture taken by my friend Krista at Bottega Louie this past Sunday- sorry, I couldn’t think of a better picture than of these funks socks.
I understand that I haven’t posted any content since June and I’m rather confident that I just haven’t had the type of inspiration that I needed in order to produce content that came from my gut.. or heart.. or brain.. or wherever. I get it. I’m sorry. Continue reading
I know I haven’t been blogging much but I guess that’s what happens when you’re occupied by life’s wonders. I promise I’ll be better and I don’t make promises I can’t keep.
I came across this TED talk a couple days ago where Meg Jay talks about “Why 30 is not the new 20” which encompasses topics such as love, career, education, personal development and so forth. Towards about half way point of the TED talk, she speaks upon how dating is like musical chairs and I couldn’t believe how much I agreed with that statement. It took some time for me to process what it really meant but as she began elaborating on her point, I began to relate more and more to it. Below is an excerpt of the TED talk along with the actual video for your viewing pleasure:
“Dating in my 20s was like musical chairs. Everybody was running around and having fun, but then sometime around 30 it was like the music turned off and everybody started sitting down. I didn’t want to be the only one left standing up, so sometimes I think I married my husband because he was the closest chair to me at 30.
Okay, now that sounds a little flip, but make no mistake, the stakes are very high. When a lot has been pushed to your 30s, there is enormous thirty something pressure to jump-start a career, pick a city, partner up, and have two or three kids in a much shorter period of time. Many of these things are incompatible, and as research is just starting to show, simply harder and more stressful to do all at once in our 30s.”
As someone that is in their early/mid 20’s (I feel hella old but look like I’m just hitting puberty), I find that those around me (including myself sometimes) use age as an excuse rather than a motivation or platform (launchpad if you will). Whether it be in regards to school, a career, or finding a partner, I’m constantly being reminded by my peers that they’re still young and have a ways to go until they really need to work on those items. What happens when you reach your late 20’s and then you finally realizes you’re 30? What do you have to show for it? Instead of using age as an excuse, young adults should be using it as a motivation to get a head start. YOYO (You’re only young once). This is the time to make as many mistakes as possible and to learn from those mistakes. I’m constantly reminded by the media that there are teenagers (who can’t even watch a rated “R” movie legally, yet alone drink), who are building these starts ups and creative these innovative products. My assumption is the last thing on their mind is that they’re “still young”.
“The best time to work on your marriage is before you have one, and that means being as intentional with love as you are with work. Picking your family is about consciously choosing who and what you want rather than just making it work or killing time with whoever happens to be choosing you.”
Dating is very much like musical chairs because as Meg Jay pointed out, we don’t realize that there is only one chair left until the music stops. The last thing you should be is a convenience to someone and you should not be choosing your partner or your career based on a convenience. Never settle. You need to able to work on yourself and be extremely secure before working on any sort of a relationship. Consider these as prerequisites before getting into a relationship because what I see as a common denominator across most “honeymoon relationships” is that once the fog clears and the butterflies subside, there still lies those insecurities which become prominent the remainder of the relationship. Jealous, dishonesty, miscommunication, misunderstanding, etc. are just several of the many traits that are not displayed within the first weeks/months of the relationship and can be detrimental if you’re not honest with yourself or your partner.
I’ve always compared an adult in their 20’s to a child’s first 5 years out of their mother’s womb (before this TED talk). This is the time when you’re most exposed to the “adult life” just as a child is exposed to the world within their first years. You’re introduced to 401K’s (I still don’t understand the intricacies of this), rent, car payments, and other responsibilities you wish you didn’t had prior to your 20’s. What’s important is that you act as a sponge and absorb all this information. You’re only able to access to 10% of your brain’s information (I wouldn’t be surprised if it was slightly less for men), so why not pile it up with as much information as possible?
“Thirty is not the new 20, so claim your adulthood, get some identity capital, use your weak ties, pick your family. Don’t be defined by what you didn’t know or didn’t do. You’re deciding your life right now.”
Happy Friday ya’ll!! I found this article on one of my favorite blogs, www.artofmanliness.com, and every point they touch upon couldn’t be more on point.
“The excerpt below comes from a book published in 1875: A Gentleman’s Guide to Etiquette by Cecil B. Hartley. Hartley’s rules may be over 100 years old, but they’re just as true today as they ever were. There are some real gems here — some of which truly gave me a chuckle.”
Since there are 37 points in this article, I did find that I only abide to some of these “rules” which essentially means I have a long way to go. Take a look and let me know what you think!
1. Even if convinced that your opponent is utterly wrong, yield gracefully, decline further discussion, or dexterously turn the conversation, but do not obstinately defend your own opinion until you become angry…Many there are who, giving their opinion, not as an opinion but as a law, will defend their position by such phrases, as: “Well, if I were president, or governor, I would,” — and while by the warmth of their argument they prove that they are utterly unable to govern their own temper, they will endeavor to persuade you that they are perfectly competent to take charge of the government of the nation.
2. Retain, if you will, a fixed political opinion, yet do not parade it upon all occasions, and, above all, do not endeavor to force others to agree with you. Listen calmly to their ideas upon the same subjects, and if you cannot agree, differ politely, and while your opponent may set you down as a bad politician, let him be obliged to admit that you are a gentleman.
3. Never interrupt anyone who is speaking; it is quite rude to officiously supply a name or date about which another hesitates, unless you are asked to do so. Another gross breach of etiquette is to anticipate the point of a story which another person is reciting, or to take it from his lips to finish it in your own language. Some persons plead as an excuse for this breach of etiquette, that the reciter was spoiling a good story by a bad manner, but this does not mend the matter. It is surely rude to give a man to understand that you do not consider him capable of finishing an anecdote that he has commenced.
4. It is ill-bred to put on an air of weariness during a long speech from another person, and quite as rude to look at a watch, read a letter, flirt the leaves of a book, or in any other action show that you are tired of the speaker or his subject.
5. In a general conversation, never speak when another person is speaking, and never try by raising your own voice to drown that of another. Never assume an air of haughtiness, or speak in a dictatorial manner; let your conversation be always amiable and frank, free from every affectation.
6. Never, unless you are requested to do so, speak of your own business or profession in society; to confine your conversation entirely to the subject or pursuit which is your own specialty is low-bred and vulgar. Make the subject for conversation suit the company in which you are placed. Joyous, light conversation will be at times as much out of place as a sermon would be at a dancing party. Let your conversation be grave or gay as suits the time or place.
7. In a dispute, if you cannot reconcile the parties, withdraw from them. You will surely make one enemy, perhaps two, by taking either side, in an argument when the speakers have lost their temper.
8. Never, during a general conversation, endeavor to concentrate the attention wholly upon yourself. It is quite as rude to enter into conversation with one of a group, and endeavor to draw him out of the circle of general conversation to talk with you alone.
9. A man of real intelligence and cultivated mind is generally modest. He may feel when in everyday society, that in intellectual acquirements he is above those around him; but he will not seek to make his companions feel their inferiority, nor try to display this advantage over them. He will discuss with frank simplicity the topics started by others, and endeavor to avoid starting such as they will not feel inclined to discuss. All that he says will be marked by politeness and deference to the feelings and opinions of others.
10. It is as great an accomplishment to listen with an air of interest and attention, as it is to speak well. To be a good listener is as indispensable as to be a good talker, and it is in the character of listener that you can most readily detect the man who is accustomed to good society.
11. Never listen to the conversation of two persons who have thus withdrawn from a group. If they are so near you that you cannot avoid hearing them, you may, with perfect propriety, change your seat.
12. Make your own share in conversation as modest and brief as is consistent with the subject under consideration, and avoid long speeches and tedious stories. If, however, another, particularly an old man, tells a long story, or one that is not new to you, listen respectfully until he has finished, before you speak again.
13. Speak of yourself but little. Your friends will find out your virtues without forcing you to tell them, and you may feel confident that it is equally unnecessary to expose your faults yourself.
14. If you submit to flattery, you must also submit to the imputation of folly and self-conceit.
15. In speaking of your friends, do not compare them, one with another. Speak of the merits of each one, but do not try to heighten the virtues of one by contrasting them with the vices of another.
16. Avoid, in conversation all subjects which can injure the absent. A gentleman will never calumniate or listen to calumny.
17. The wittiest man becomes tedious and ill-bred when he endeavors to engross entirely the attention of the company in which he should take a more modest part.
18. Avoid set phrases, and use quotations but rarely. They sometimes make a very piquant addition to conversation, but when they become a constant habit, they are exceedingly tedious, and in bad taste.
19. Avoid pedantry; it is a mark, not of intelligence, but stupidity.
20. Speak your own language correctly; at the same time do not be too great a stickler for formal correctness of phrases.
21. Never notice it if others make mistakes in language. To notice by word or look such errors in those around you is excessively ill-bred.
22. If you are a professional or scientific man, avoid the use of technical terms. They are in bad taste, because many will not understand them. If, however, you unconsciously use such a term or phrase, do not then commit the still greater error of explaining its meaning. No one will thank you for thus implying their ignorance.
23. In conversing with a foreigner who speaks imperfect English, listen with strict attention, yet do not supply a word, or phrase, if he hesitates. Above all, do not by a word or gesture show impatience if he makes pauses or blunders. If you understand his language, say so when you first speak to him; this is not making a display of your own knowledge, but is a kindness, as a foreigner will be pleased to hear and speak his own language when in a strange country.
24. Be careful in society never to play the part of buffoon, for you will soon become known as the “funny” man of the party, and no character is so perilous to your dignity as a gentleman. You lay yourself open to both censure and bad ridicule, and you may feel sure that, for every person who laughs with you, two are laughing at you, and for one who admires you, two will watch your antics with secret contempt.
25. Avoid boasting. To speak of your money, connections, or the luxuries at your command is in very bad taste. It is quite as ill-bred to boast of your intimacy with distinguished people. If their names occur naturally in the course of conversation, it is very well; but to be constantly quoting, “my friend, Gov. C,” or, “my intimate friend, the president,” is pompous and in bad taste.
26. While refusing the part of jester yourself, do not, by stiff manners, or cold, contemptuous looks, endeavor to check the innocent mirth of others. It is in excessively bad taste to drag in a grave subject of conversation when pleasant, bantering talk is going on around you. Join in pleasantly and forget your graver thoughts for the time, and you will win more popularity than if you chill the merry circle or turn their innocent gayety to grave discussions.
27. When thrown into the society of literary people, do not question them about their works. To speak in terms of admiration of any work to the author is in bad taste; but you may give pleasure, if, by a quotation from their writings, or a happy reference to them, you prove that you have read and appreciated them.
28. It is extremely rude and pedantic, when engaged in general conversation, to make quotations in a foreign language.
29. To use phrases which admit of a double meaning, is ungentlemanly.
30. If you find you are becoming angry in a conversation, either turn to another subject or keep silence. You may utter, in the heat of passion, words which you would never use in a calmer moment, and which you would bitterly repent when they were once said.
31. “Never talk of ropes to a man whose father was hanged” is a vulgar but popular proverb. Avoid carefully subjects which may be construed into personalities, and keep a strict reserve upon family matters. Avoid, if you can, seeing the skeleton in your friend’s closet, but if it is paraded for your special benefit, regard it as a sacred confidence, and never betray your knowledge to a third party.
32. If you have traveled, although you will endeavor to improve your mind in such travel, do not be constantly speaking of your journeyings. Nothing is more tiresome than a man who commences every phrase with, “When I was in Paris,” or, “In Italy I saw…”
33. When asking questions about persons who are not known to you, in a drawing-room, avoid using adjectives; or you may enquire of a mother, “Who is that awkward, ugly girl?” and be answered, “Sir, that is my daughter.”
34. Avoid gossip; in a woman it is detestable, but in a man it is utterly despicable.
35. Do not officiously offer assistance or advice in general society. Nobody will thank you for it.
36. Avoid flattery. A delicate compliment is permissible in conversation, but flattery is broad, coarse, and to sensible people, disgusting. If you flatter your superiors, they will distrust you, thinking you have some selfish end; if you flatter ladies, they will despise you, thinking you have no other conversation.
37. A lady of sense will feel more complimented if you converse with her upon instructive, high subjects, than if you address to her only the language of compliment. In the latter case she will conclude that you consider her incapable of discussing higher subjects, and you cannot expect her to be pleased at being considered merely a silly, vain person, who must be flattered into good humor.
Facebook is holding a mysterious product launch event on June 20th and numerous sources believe that it will be unveiling video for Instagram (Videogram?- eh?). Instagram’s competition has grown more than ever this year with Snapchat and Twitter’s Vine.
“After Twitter debuted an Android version of Vine in the beginning of June, usage reached a tipping point: shares of Vines surpassed those of Instagram photos on Twitter — usage that has only diverged even more since then.”
If this is indeed what is being unveiled, this will become a pretty steep hill that Vine will have to climb. This not only lights the fire between Vine and Instagram, but also increases the tension between their parent companies, Twitter and Facebook. What does this mean for users? It essentially just omits the middle man. It’s one less app and one less social network (like we need any more). Facebook has really let Instagram paint its own canvas after being acquired and their user base will surely expand if this video product is released.
The real question is… when is Instagram going to start advertising? Are they even going to advertiser? Where would they advertise? The popular page? Would users pay to not see advertisements? What about sponsored ads for Instagram accounts such as Nordstroms, Forever21. etc.?
http://techcrunch.com/2013/06/17/source-instagram-will-get-video-on-june-20/
I’ve recently had a handful of friends approach me and tell me they like someone but they’re not sure how to tell them without being too aggressive. Story. Of. My. Life. You know what I mean. How do you tell someone you like them without literally telling them you like them? Or maybe you want to tell them, but you don’t have the confidence nor the courage to tell that person. It’s a challenge for anyone because you fear being rejected, but it could be extremely rewarding and they can tell you that they feel the same way. It’s a high risk and high reward situation. Regardless of the situation, I’m not still not sure if there’s a right way to do so. However, I am here to tell you what I would do… you know, being single and all.
Remember everything. I cannot tell you how appreciative people are when you remember the little things, even if it’s their name. Whether it be their favorite drink at Starbucks, what color nail polish they wore last week, if they got a haircut, a new shirt, a new pair of heels, their favorite restaurant, their favorite alcoholic beverage, etc., they will always be amazed. Always. You know when they say, “it’s the little things that matter?” They weren’t kidding. This shows that you’re paying attention (even if you’re forcing yourself to and it’s not natural), and “paying attention” is always a prerequisite to a relationship.
If you’re out about at a bar par, lounge, party, gathering, etc. the worst thing you can do is stand in one place and hope to be noticed. Passiveness- aint nobody got time for that. You also don’t want to surround yourself with too many people because this gives the person the opportunity to meet you without entertaining the rest of the group. I’d say a group of 3-4 people would suffice. Non- verbals are everythang (that’s not a typo by the way). Everything from eye contact, smiling, placing a hand on the knee/arm, walking arm-in-arm, sitting next to each other rather than across from each other, etc. are subtle gestures that surpass the “friend zone” and should provide hints. Sometimes the best form of communication is not saying anything at all.
Take the time to express yourself and wait for reciprocation. Whatever move you choose to do, don’t be hasty. Some of most common mistakes I see amongst people that have these crushes is that they’re either overconfident or impatient (or both). You have nothing to lose if you wait a couple weeks/months to ensure that you’re not misinterpreting any signs that the other party is sending. The most beautiful things in life often occur naturally and not forced. If you’re excited when they walk in, express it. I’m a believer that one of the ways to a woman’s heart is by laughter. Every woman enjoys a man that can take a miserable situation and make the best out of it. Life is not about weathering the storm, it’s about learning to dance in the rain. Make sure you are their biggest cheerleader and encourage them to do things that they’re passionate about. Support their cause.
Take the initiative and be proactive. I suppose this is more-so for the gentlemen out there rather than the ladies, since societal norms tells us that if women approach a man they will be ostracized (I highly disagree). You want to be able to show that you’re putting forth the effort to make things happen and you’re being proactive, rather than reactive. All women want a man that can take charge. Maybe not all of the time, but most of the time. Think about it. How many times have you asked a woman questions such as, “Where do you want to eat?” or “What movie do you want to see?” and they’ve responded with “It doesn’t matter”, “I don’t care”, “Whatever you want”, “I’m up for anything”. Yea.. well.. they defer to you to make those choices because it’s apparently a man’s innate ability to make those decisions. But if you suggest what color the bathroom should be, or what centerpiece you want for your wedding, or what food to have at a family dinner, be prepared to have your fingers cut off. Ok, maybe not that extreme but you will receive “the look”.
With that being said, if there’s anything I wanted you to get from this article is that you need to make things happen and overcome that fear. Opportunities are seized, not offered. What do you have to lose? The other person saying “No”? Now what? The best thing about life is that it goes on. Embrace the person within and you will never be insecure. Things will fall into place as needed. Life is complicated as it is, no need to add fuel to the fire.
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I’m sure the initial thought of when you read the title of this post either made you smile or scared the heck out of you. That’s exactly what it should have done.
Who are the 5 people that you spend the most time within a 24 hour period? Maybe it’s not 5, but lets select at least 3 for this exercise. I’m assuming that amongst this group will include family, friends, colleagues, or even a spouse, correct? What are they doing with their lives? How ambitious, successful, optimistic, or happy are they? Are they a positive force in your life? Do they uplift you? Do they challenge you? Do they see the good in people? I’m hoping that all 5 of these people in your life do so, but the reality is that not all of them do.
The older we get the more we begin to understand that people change (including ourselves), and for most of us it’s a realization that is hard to swallow. Why do people change? Values. What I consider an ideal night out now is definitely not what I considered an ideal night out 5 years ago and what I look for in a woman now is not what I looked for in a woman 5 years ago either. We also need to consider our environment because the environment always wins. You need to be conscious of where you spend your time and who you spend your time with. If you don’t feel that these people and places are substantially elevating your game and inspiring you to be bigger and better, then you need to find new people and places to be. Here’s a great exercise that I stole from another article which will help you assess what kind of people you surround yourself with and what environments you’re in:
Write down the 5 people you spend the most time with and the 3 environments you spend the most time in.
In regards to people, rate each of them on a scale of 1-10 in these categories (and don’t worry… they won’t see this):
Wealth consciousness (1-10)
Up to BIG things (1-10)
Encouraging & positive (1-10)
Health conscious (1-10)
In regards to your environment, rate each place on a scale of 1-10 in these categories:
Feels abundant (1-10)
Clean (1-10)
Good energy (1-10)
Positive & uplifting(1-10)
An 8 (for each) should be your bottom line. No less…
YES… it will be difficult to change.
YES… it will be worth it.
YES… the types of people and environments you’ve always dreamed about are out there.
You simply need to be conscious, courageous, and caring enough realize what isn’t working and make a commitment to find the type of people and places that will lift you up.
Then average your scores together in each category for each environment and person.
The most difficult part of this saying is not knowing what to do with family or friends that have been there for years (or your entire life). Do you just leave them because they don’t share the same values as you? Like they say, “it gets lonely at the top.” I’m going to go against societies norm and say that regardless of who they are, it’s your choice. You have the choice in surrounding yourself with people that will radiate positivity in your life or surrounding yourself with people that will continue to be a black cloud above you and your future. I’m sure some of you are thinking, “Christian, you’re such a douche for leaving those people behind.” I’m fine with that. With that being said, know that my parents are definitely 2 of those 5 people. I’ve adopted the saying that, “if they’re not lifting you up, they’re pulling you down.” All I ask for from people that I spend time with are that they are a positive force in my life. Now, the top 5 people in my life must contribute more than that because I know that if they’re not challenging me to be a better person and just as ambitious and goal- oriented as myself, I’ll accept the position I’m in and that’s the last thing I want and need.
Mediocrity is and never will be an option. When you settle for less, you place a glass ceiling above your head and you begin to tell yourself that you’ve exhausted all efforts in reaching the top. The closer you get to the top, the more you realize that there is no “top.” When you surround yourself with people that are your backbone, your foundation, and your rock, you’re already one step ahead of everyone else. You decide the people and the environment you’re in and I highly suggest that you begin assessing these variables if you haven’t already. Are you not where you want to be? Do you feel that the people currently in your life are not as enthusiastic in your future? Are you satisfied with just being content? Are you blinded by other people’s perceptions and beliefs?
I want to take the time to personally thank the 5 people I spend the most time with. I won’t drop any names since I might offend some people, but they know who they are. They know who they are because I’m sure I’m on their list as well. Thank you for always telling me things that I may not necessarily want to hear but need to hear. Thank you for being that positive force in my life and continually pushing me to not only do better but be better. Thank you for believing in me when I may not have believed in myself. Thank you for being my foundation and loving me for me- imperfections and all. Thank you for steering me in the direction that I may not know I should be in. Last but not least, thank you for your unconditional love. Without these people in my life I wouldn’t be where I am today and I’m forever grateful for their presence. Take the time to tell those 5 people in your life that you appreciate them. A little gratitude goes a long way.
The inspiration for this post actually came from a fellow blogger of mine, Bruna, who recently wrote an article about her story entitled, “My name is Bruna and I’m deeply flawed” (I know I know, way to get real creative with the title of your post Christian). For many of us, we rely on numerous avenues in order to vent our emotions and thoughts. Some of us might go for a run, others might speak to family members, friends, or a significant other. Fortunately for myself, I have a myriad of options which helps me get things off my chest. Today, it’s writing.
Some of you may know me, some may know of me, and some may actually can care less who I am, but the intention of this post is to really let you know a little bit of who I am and I commend those of you who are taking the time out of your busy days to read this. Today, you are my therapist whether you like it or not. You’re welcome. (Yes Ginger, I stole your line).
I don’t want this to come off as an autobiography but I’m certain that it will somehow transcend into something similar.
I’m an only child and I was raised by royalty. I’m sure most of you are assuming that by “royalty” I was referring to riches, right? Right. However, not the riches that you may be acquainted with. My parents were, and still are, rich with love which is by far more valuable than anything that money can by.
“Some people are so poor, all they have is money.”
I was blessed enough to come from two of the most compassionate, loving, supportive and understanding parents that anyone could ask for and I definitely could not be where I am today if it weren’t for their guidance and brutally honest advise that I never wanted to hear, but needed to hear. I’ve always struggled with feeling accepted, whether it be at school, amongst my peers, or even within my family and I never could understand that feeling since I’ve always had the most amazing friends and family. When people chose to walk out of my life, I somehow subconsciously blamed myself for their decisions and it always baffled me as to why I would think something so preposterous. It wasn’t until I actually had a conversation with my mother a couple years back that I was able to identify where this feeling was being stemmed from- I’m adopted.
I was raised with the mentality that I can have anything that I can want. Anything you name it, I was always empowered to go get it. Who else would stop me? What do I have to lose? I find that the majority of time we have the tools in order to be successful, but we let ourselves get in the way of what we want. Granted some of us face steeper obstacles than others, but I’ve also found that opportunities are rarely offered and more commonly seized. You really have to assess where your time is being spent and how you can allocate more time and energy towards what you want. Whether it be a college degree, a career, a new pair of shoes, or even a significant other. Depending on how much you want something will be solely dependent on how much time you invest in it. You should always consider yourself as the exception and not the rule.
“The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing.”
Like most of us, we’ve fallen in love, fallen out of love, broke hearts, had our hearts broken, thought something was there when it really wasn’t and so forth. For those of you that have known me long enough to know all the women I’ve been in a relationship with (4- this number is debatable. Don’t ask.), know that I’ve accepted how things unfolded as each relationship came to an end. Some people hold grudges, some try to seek revenge, some are bitter, etc., but hate in your heart will consume you too. I’m actually glad that I dated women that were completely wrong for me and I would encourage you do the same. Why? Because now you know what you don’t want which may be as valuable if not more valuable than knowing what you do want. Go out with someone unexpected and see what happens. You could fall in love with that one quality that you never really noticed. You might be surprised at just whom you fall for. Even if you end up turned off and bored with the person, at least you have a funny story to tell. According to the book, “The Secret”, you attract whatever you put out into the world, so go out there with an open mind and you might actually be that person that someone else falls in love with. The law of attraction never fails.
“Life is not about weathering the storm, it’s learning to dance in the rain.”
Don’t let anyone be your anchor. The older we get the more susceptible we become to growing apart from those that you were once close to. This is typically rooted from what you value as opposed to what others value. I know for myself, I have friends that are still concerned about what club they’re going to this weekend or what person they’re hooking up with tonight and that was once was me (hard to believe huh? Ok, maybe not). I don’t knock them for having those motives but that just isn’t the person I am anymore. That was a phase in my life where I didn’t know who I was nor did I know what I wanted so all those things were just ways to cover my insecurities. What I slowly realized is that those were just bandaids and did not provide an actual solution. What I consider a perfect night out is dinner and drinks with friends at a low key restaurant followed by reading and a glass of vino to end the night. I’m definitely an old soul. I know. I get it. If you want something and it’s not of the norm or is not accepted by your peers, don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t have it. If what you want is in the open seas, swim out to get it with or without people by your side. Life is too short to be anything but happy and you need to able to take care of yourself before you can take care of others.
I was actually going to suggest 20 things you should do in your 20’s but elitedaily.com actually wrote an article earlier this month that pretty much aligns with what my thoughts were. Here they are and I’ve also provided the link receive additional clarification.
http://elitedaily.com/life/20-things-you-need-to-do-in-your-20s/
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